general

  • unsubscribe to useless marketing newsletters right away
  • never buy a class package of anything, you will not use them
  • use people’s names when you talk to them, even online
  • state the request in the first message if asking for a favor; skip the fluff
  • leave/mark messages unread if you can’t respond just yet
  • don’t play video/audio out loud in public
  • there is always someone else who can provide the service you do so if your plate is full, don’t feel bad for saying no to someone’s request
  • when planning a hang, pick a time that works for YOU and then broadcast it. trying to accommodate everyone is just too complex and discouraging.

shopping

books

  • classics must be on bright paper with large enough margins to write in
  • cannot have the shitty paper that mechanical pencil lead gets caught in

clothes

  • will never fit right: built-in bras, stitching to indicate where the bust is, button-up dresses
  • won’t look nice on me: drop shoulder, empire waist